Dear Friends,

I’m back from Kosovo for a few days and I’m really happy to be back in Germany with Dorina and all my friends. The experience in Kosovo was really amazing. It’s a poor but beautiful country with a lot of nice people there. And I had a really amazing experience with “being right” vs. “being alive’.

During one of our last evenings in Kosovo, we had small party to say good bye to some soldiers that were leaving. Some people were drinking alcohol, and a fight broke out between two soldiers that I really like. I stood back and watched the fight, thinking it would resolve itself but it didn’t. At one point, one of the two soldiers became very aggressive (at that point it was obvious that he was drunk). It was time for me to get between them and tell the drunken soldier to leave and to go to bed. Instead of going, he became even more aggressive and another soldier and I had to “carry” him out to his sleeping room. It was strange for me because this soldier always was very nice. It was always good talking and working with him, and we had developed a friendship between us. But the next day he ignored me and I didn’t know how to handle it, because I thought that he should apologize for his actions. I felt that I was in the right about the evening before. And I though felt sorry about the situation, what I saw was that really I felt sorry for myself. I realized that I was caught up in “being right”.

Later that day, we saw each other and I stopped him while he was walking by. I told him that I was sorry. Then one of the most amazing things happened during my time in Kosovo–he said “thank you” and he also apologized to me. In the remaining days, he didn’t drink at all and our relationship was “normal” again in every moment. Everything had resolved between us. And the only thing I needed to do was to give up being right. Wow, it was so amazing. Without you, Ariel and Shya, this would not have happened. Thank you so much.

Now I’m even more excited to go to Costa Rica and see you and a lot of my friends.

Much Love,
Norman

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