About two weeks ago I had the great opportunity to chat with Ariel and Shya about dating. It was an amazing and eye opening experience… I am not sure what happened but suddenly and miraculously I have so many dates!! I have been scheduling meetings in open air markets, cafes, during my lunch hours, at museums, going to play tennis, cooking… And all the guys have been fun to be with! I somehow discovered how to be with each of them, not thinking if they were “relationship material” while at the same time I stopped putting pressure on myself to find “THE ONE”. Ariel and Shya masterfully hit the nail on the head when they explained that I had been conditioned to be “a good catholic girl” through my culture and I’d been approaching dating as a “mini-marriage” in hopes that the date would turn into a husband. The thought of just enjoying myself while meeting many men was outside of my realm of possibilities…I mean ‘What kind of woman dates many men?.. I am sure you and I came up with the same word..it starts with a W and ends with an E.

Anyway, it has been so much fun to see how I feel with different men. I’m paying attention to clues on who I want to hang out with more. I’m no longer overlooking things that I did not like because I was trying to make the guy fit into a forced role of ‘boyfriend’ right away.

I also magically realized that I had a judgment against men as being mean or inept.. I always secretly thought I was better than my two older brothers and father. I believed that girls did it better and were superior.. and when I realized that the line of thinking that had been running my life was created when I was a 4 year-old and I didn’t judge myself for those thoughts…they just melted away. The three magical principles of transformation made it so easy to look at my thoughts non-judgmentally, and realize I could have not been different.

I know that I have been kinder to all men in general. It is so sweet, I have so many new guy friends and potential dates, it is unbelievable!! I cannot explain it, and I am so grateful to know that I can go about my dating also with excellence as I do every aspect of my life. I am not a failure or incomplete for not having a relationship… This is indeed a magical dating season!! If you want to hear the podcast I recorded with the Kanes, click here and listen to “A Magical Season of Dating” and join me (and many others) for The Art of Relating weekend in June, it’s going to be phenomenal!!

*To listen to other great Instantaneous Transformation podcasts, go to http://transformationmadeeasy.com/podcasts/

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