I had noooooo idea…..about the degree to which my upsets where running my life. Not the least idea. I came back from this wonderful workshop in Cambridge with Ariel and Shya and of course I had realized that “something” had happened. I hoped for “something” to be different after my return, but I would never ever have expected such a profound difference.

I came home on Sunday night and the first thing I realized on Monday morning was the trigger of an upset. It was like a little “beep” inside me, something jumping, but then….nothing. A few moments later the next little “beep”. And the day went on like this. I was flabbergasted by the sheer quantity of little triggers throughout the day. I didn’t count but there were MANY of them. And for the first time I understood what Ariel and Shya mean by “mechanic behavior”!!!! Because it just happens at a trigger, but the trigger is no real reason. I used to get upset about a thousand things that are no “real reasons” or justifications to get upset. It hurt a little to see that I have also “considered” my children to be a cause of upset. This week I’ve actually been able to be with my kids and weather through difficult situations without getting upset. It is actually almost a strange feeling. It feels as if I had been drugged or doped. Tranquilizers or something. It’s so funny because there is even a kind of a little man inside myself (I picture it that way) really furious about me not getting upset. And it’s also sometimes even leaving me a little uncertain. I am in a traffic jam. I don’t get upset. What am I going to do??? .

Two events happened that really made me cry. Christian, my husband, came to me yesterday and started talking to me about some renovation work in the house he would like to do. This would have been a supermegatrigger!!!!! A little “beep” but that was it. We spoke about his proposal AND I realized that it is also much easier to express my concerns and put forward my arguments when I am not upset. After we finished, Christian left for work but not without kissing me several times. His RELIEF was sooooo obvious because for once I reacted to the topic without anger…..It was so touching for me. The second thing was that last night when we were about to bring the kids to bed, Christian expressed something that I had realized throughout the afternoon already. He said: I don’t know what it is, but Luise (our daughter) looks particularly pretty today. And he was soooo right. She has full cheeks with that nice little color and she is really shining. Needless to say that the kids have been very relaxed these last couple of days.

I could keep on writing to you all about all the beautiful things that happened this week. I can’t tell you often enough how grateful and humble I feel for what has happened to me. I have heard Ariel and Shya say often that people can’t imagine what is possible for them just because they can’t imagine what they don’t know. I did not believe it. Now I do. Full stop.

Wishing you a wonderful day, wherever you are,

Uli (from Colgne)

Hi everybody!

10 days  ago, I thought it would be a nice idea to send my mother some flowers at Mother’s Day, May 9th.  So I went in the Internet to my online flower shop and checked Mother’s Days flower bouquets. They were beautiful, but nothing really touched my heart. So I checked the other offers, and suddenly a stunning bouquet of a dozen large red roses popped up. A beautiful heart shaped tin box with filled chocolate was attached.  It looked just gorgeous! Then my little voice in my head started: “No, this is something for lovers, not for moms.” And then I saw, they are only available tll April 30th. Ok, enough resonable reasons to forget about it. I looked for something else, and one minute later I jumped back to the roses.  They looked so incredible precious and beautiful.

Why not sending them just a week earlier, when she’s not expecting it, what a great surprise.  I just needed to order a card together with the flowers. The Mother’s Day cards were not yet availabe. They only offered: I love you, Happy Birthday, Thank you, Get well, and something without text. My first thought: nothing is fitting. Well, “Thank you” would be ok. But it didn’t feel appropriate, just very reasonable. But what else: There was this very coulourful “I love you” card, with hearts of red roses on it. It was so corny/mawkish, and in English. No one in my family would ever send such a printed emotional card. Then I thought of picking the neutral card and writing something nice on it.

And then my hand clicked on the “I love you” card. My little voice said, perhaps she will laugh about it and feel embarassed (as I did, picking it), but still she will like the flowers and the chocolate. I wrote in the card: Dear Mum, this year Mother’s Day is one week early. I don’t remember the next sentences, it was something about thank you for everything, included my dad and ended with a big hug.  I dated it as delivery on April 30th.

Yesterday my Mum called me in the afternoon. She cried so much, she couldn’t even talk. I said, “Oh my God, Mum, what has happened?!” She cried, “We got your gift, this incredible flowers and your card. Dad and I had not expected something so wonderful. We are sitting here togteher at the table looking at it and are crying, because we are so happy!” I got tears in my eyes and said: “You deserve it.” She whispered, “Thank you, thank you.”  We wished eachother a wonderful week-end.

I feel so rich, and so grateful. My life is fullfilled. I’m so happy that I sent this gift, yes it was a gift between lovers, and I love my Mum and my Dad, and they love me. Transformation turns the world into this magical place.

Thank you so much Ariel & Shya and all of you, for making this possible.

Love,
Stefanie

Since the last course and upon signing up for the next one (Step into Your Brilliance) for which I paid in full (and guess what, it was true what you said…the course started to happen then) things have shifted. I got home to California and my life as I knew it before was different. I was able to complete any task in the time needed. I was happier. I was lighter somehow, and the people around me became interesting and interested. My husband, Tony, turned to me at dinner one night and said, “I don’t know what your doing but don’t stop…I can’t get enough of you and love being around you, you look beautiful.”  So, of course I tried as best I could to explain to him what Ariel and Shya do… It was murky I am sure, but he smiled…this big smile and grabbed my hands tight.

My sister and I started to talk every morning and she said, “There’s something different about you and I want some.” I loved that! She lives in Florida so I sent her Working on Yourself Doesnt Work…every day we talk, she tells me what chapter she is on and what’s changing in her life. I invited her to the workshop… Maybe not this time, but, every day her mind gets blown away she is that much closer. So I sent the book to my mom and my brother…it was like things started to change so quickly between all of us without any of us labeling it…my boss called me one day and complimented me in a way he has never done on the 20 years we have worked together…and the conference calls I used to hate with a passion have become incredible. I actually listen, instead of doing emails, or dishes, or anything else I could do rather than get interested…crazy amazing!

I did wake up today in a temper trantrum and it felt so off, so wrong…and then… The email from Ariel and Shya came through…whoosh…I got interested in their story, and bam…here I am writing to all of you for the first time to say…thank you. You affect my life in a way that I never knew was possible And it rocks my world! Can’t wait till next week……!

Sandy

Ps… My daughter Lil said, “What’s up mom…it’s like your living your life for the first time”…YUP!

Dear Ariel, Dear Shya!

It was on a Friday, December 11th 2009 when I missed my train to go home.  Right at the train station there is a bookstore called “Rest seller” and as I had nothing better to do while waiting for my next train to leave I took a stroll through the store and looked through the books in the display.  A small, white book with a few butterflies on the cover caught my attention.  I love everything that has wings…such as fairies, angels etc. and there was something playful and light about this book. But being a person that had lost the interest in getting more spiritual books, I didn’t really wanna buy another book.  Besides that, I didn’t expect this book to tell me something new.  At the same time I liked the idea of getting really cozy on my sofa on a cold winter evening and reading short stories, after all it was not an expensive book, so what did I have to lose?  It was just a book with sweet butterflies.  I decided to get it – having NO idea that this book would be the starting point of true transformation and many blessings to come into my life!

Three weeks later I had read all your books and had listened to many many episodes of Being Here and had inspired my friends and family to do the same. I keep listening to Being Here, I get so many tips, insights and “Ahas,” it’s incredible, such a treat!

Last Tuesday I attended the first International call in Liestal/Switzerland. I have never met you in person and I am absolutely astonished and deeply touched to experience how my life has shifted and transformed since December 11th.

There has come a new lightness and cheerfulness into my life that I enjoy so much. It feels like my true self, my essence is expressing itself more and more. It’s blossoming. In one episode Ariel said how we so rarely say: “Hey, this is me! This is what I do! This is where I live, these are my clothes, this is my boyfriend!”  That was so important to hear for me!

Since I started to really listen, I enjoy other people’s company so much more and feel so much more connected and real.  The other day someone said to me: “wow, you really listen”.  Sometimes, I can feel how people actually relax when I am with them and how I relax as well, because I do not have to “do” anything special anymore, but to listen and just be there.  Before, I took lots of time to sit and meditate and needed time to myself to center myself, now being with people and listening has become my meditation as well and interestingly, I take far less time to sit and meditate anymore.

I would LOVE to come to Costa Rica with you guys in 2011!!  I am signed up for both of your workshops in April in Hamburg.

Lots of love from snowy Switzerland!
Evelyne

You know how transformation happens in retrospect? Well, since being back from Costa Rica for 2 weeks now, I can really see it!

Being in Costa Rica was such a gift.  Ariel & Shya created this course for us with such care, in a way that each of us – and all of us as a group – experienced magic. Being in that incredibly gorgeous and alive environment with everyone was like waking up on Christmas morning every day. From ‘big’ things to little ones…though I really can tell the difference between them now!  Like walking down the path to the dining area one afternoon. I really saw, and more than that, felt the beauty and glory of the world around me and of myself – I felt like Snow White, as if I was communicating with all the creatures around me by just being with and enjoying them We had some nights of singing after dinner and hearing people sing even a 1 minute song brought tears to my
eyes; or being on a horse who responded to even my thoughts (before I had to do anything to communicate my instruction), and being in that paradise-like place with some of the most incredible people from all over the world that I have ever met; it felt as if we were doing amazing & important work for all of humanity (though there was really no work involved).

And since I’ve returned the gifts have kept showing up!  The day I got back, my boss had booked an appointment for me with the owners of a company I have known for about 6 years who was ready to redesign their website. I had a great meeting with them and their entire company, which really just felt like chatting.   By the end of the week, I spoke with one of the owners who said that even though their budget was tight, they were going to make it work because they knew we were the company for them.  Actually, he said that it was his relationship with me that made them want to work with us…that really blew my mind!  That just being me made such a difference…that I actually don’t need to ‘do’ anything extra than just be with people when I’m with them.  Well in the last 2 weeks, sales opportunities have just been coming up consistently.

The thing I’m now noticing is that the gifts are actually around me (and all of us) all the time and it’s just about being there to see them. And there’s really no trick to it…in fact it’s when I try to do things, change the way I am, or basically work on myself that I lose sight of that magical quality. In addition to Monday Nights, International Calls, and weekend workshops, one AWESOME way to stay hooked into that magic is through Being Here, the Kanes’ weekly radio show. It was after listening to the episode “Networking Like a Pro” that the business connections started turning into sales and I really saw that the things I wanted in my life were so connected with the ways I could support other people in having what they want.

A big thank you to Ariel & Shya for creating such an incredible experience for us and to all of you for being who you are!!

Lots of Love,
Val

How are you? 14 days ago I  came back from Costa Rica.

WOW! There’s still this wonderful impact I feel in myself. What do I mean? Well, being in Costa Rica was a unique experience.  Pure self-discovery and adventure.  It was such a gift to discover myself, to discover the beauty of the moment, the wonderful nature, to meet the other participants and to be with them.

Ariel and Shya created a wonderful environment to discover Transformation. They are so wise and I am so thankful for this amazing adventure and happy to be part of this community.

Back in Hamburg, I noticed that I have no complaints about the circumstances in my life.  For example, lately I recognized that people around me complained about the snow and the ice.  In the past I stepped into those complaints.  Now I do not step into those complaints.  I enjoy the snow and the winter and share this with the people around me. I am really not better than the people around me, it is just such a feeling of happiness and calmness in myself that I had not discovered as deeply in the past. Yes, and this makes me so happy.

Another thing, today I feel more aware of my mechanical behaviors – e.g. I noticed at work that when I have to do something that I do not like to do, I focus my attention on something else.  I had seen this already in the past, but after being in Costa Rica and being back in Hamburg, something transformed.  Now I have a choice :) and I do what is right in front of me, no matter if I like it or not and it is so easy!  My boyfriend, my family and all the people around me, they all get a benefit out of me sharing myself and transformation.

It sounds too good to be real? Well, it is sooo real and alive!!!  Transformation is such an enormous gift and so much fun, too! I highly recommend Costa Rica and invite everybody to join me next year

My best wishes and warmly greetings from Hamburg,
Katja

Costa Rica was amazing! It was such a treat that I was there for two weeks!  My husband Jay, our friend Susan & I watched some of the video we shot in Costa Rica.  And I was amazed to see myself. I looked calm and comfortable in my skin.

Costa Rica gave me the opportunity to be me. To be me in a place with 50 plus glorious friends in a land of pure beauty. It was magical as we all transformed and relaxed into the moment. The two weeks in Costa Rica gave me the opportunity to relax into myself, as I kept dropping the thoughts that requested I work on myself. The old mechanics didn’t have staying power as I didn’t entertain & indulge in urges of self pity. It was amazing!! And this skill set got easier & easier as each day flew by.

I was the “logistics” person for Ariel & Shya. And I got to see how I operate when I’m “working”. It was such a gift and so valuable. I got to see how I would automatically fall into self pity if I would make a “mistake”. This used to be how I operated at my job at the Bank (which I immediately saw in retrospect – my boss didn’t appreciate it – and that’s an understatement). My boss would get so frustrated with me when I worked on myself. I didn’t see this until I was in Costa Rica. Here was the game: if I went into self pity while I was performing my logistics duties, I would no longer be the logistics person. I love doing logistics, so there was a great price to pay if I indulged in self pity. I saw that if I’m lost in self pity, I can’t take care of people & my surroundings. It was a trip to feel the self pity mechanics automatically rise up within me and in an instant
see it, feel it, not judge it, and then continue with what I was doing in that moment, bypassing the uncomfortable place that used to keep me from being brilliant.

Needless to say, working this past week at the Bank was AMAZING. I had moments where I made some mistakes and I flushed & blushed with unkind thoughts about myself – all in front of my boss of course. In a split second (due to my awareness training in Costa Rica) I saw I had the choice. I then spoke with my boss without punishing myself (or her), and she quickly moved onto the next moment, trusting that I would make the correction, knowing that I supported her. I was partnering her and this is a powerful feeling.

Jay and I are in a new place in our relationship. We are partners in a new and expansive way than we were before we went to Costa Rica. I got see how I wouldn’t allow men to help me (a vestige from my pre-transformational feminist days). Jay supported me & participated with the Logistics and it was such a sweet and loving experience.

I am a new person. Costa Rica is the greatest gift I can give myself. I signed up again for next year. So much magic happened. If you’re thinking about Costa Rica 2011 – give it to yourself! I am so grateful for Ariel &
Shya, and for all of you in this Transformational Community. What a gift we have. A gift to share with others who have yet to discover Instantaneous Transformation. I’m looking forward to seeing some of you tomorrow night (with all of our guests!). And to those of you around this world (not in NYC) – I look forward to seeing you soon!

Sending my love to all of you,
Colleen

Bill gives tips about how to have an active sex life after almost 50 years of marriage.

(German translation below)

Dear friends all over the world,

Last night while I was working off my pile of papers to deliver to school before I go to Costa Ricaaaaaaa on Friday:-))))), I suddenly felt the urge to watch the last video-podcasts that I got being a member of the Premium Excellence Club. I had had trouble looking at them directly just clicking on the arrow and procrastinated finding out about the other possibilities for watching them. But there I was, in a wiff I got the solution – on my own – it worked and I could watch these brilliant moments in time!

I had totally forgotten how visible transformation gets on somebody’s face, in somebody’s stature, and even over the camera through the computer I felt as if I was in the room with everybody experiencing life to the fullest.

Make that a part of your life, too! If you ever had the slightest thought like “maybe I’ll join sometime…”: do it now, there’s just not a moment to waste in your life and the lives of everybody around you!

I’m so grateful for being a part of this community that shows me depths of my heart I didn’t even guess I had. My whole environment today was a different one: I got offers for two concerts in one morning, had deep and meaningful chit-chat (never knew you could feel close to somebody by chit-chatting:-))), got a lot of work done and resolved some difficult situations by clearly and openly communicating !

Join in today, it’s magic!

With loads of love to all my friends and my deep thanks and love to Ariel & Shya who made all this possible by sharing what they have!

Ursula, St. Gallen, Switzerland

German Translation:

Liebe Freunde überall auf der Welt

Gestern nacht war ich mitten am Papierstapel durcharbeiten von Papieren, die ich in der Schule abgeben muss, bevor ich am Freitag:-)))) nach Costa Ricaaaaaaa fahre. Da hatte ich plötzlich den Impuls, die letzten Video-Podcasts anzuschauen, die ich als Premium Excellence Club Mitglied erhalten hatte. Ich hatte Schwierigkeiten gehabt, sie mir direkt anzuschauen, nur durch direktes Anklicken des Pfeils und hatte es vor mir hergeschoben herauszufinden, was denn die anderen drei Möglichkeiten waren, sie zu sehen. Aber da geschah’s, in Nullkommanix hatte ich die Lösung – ganz selber rausgefunden – es funktionierte, und ich konnte mir diese brillianten Momente ansehen!

Ich hatte total vergessen wie sichtbar Transformation auf jemandes Gesicht, in jemandes Haltung wird, und sogar über die Kamera durch den Computer hatte ich das Gefühl, als sässe ich in dem Raum dort mit den jeweiligen Leuten und erführe das Leben in seiner ganzen Fülle!

Mach es auch zu einem Teil von deinem Leben! Solltest du je den kleinsten Gedanken gehabt haben wie “vielleicht abonniere ich das dann mal…” : tu es jetzt, es gibt einfach keinen einzigen Moment in deinem und dem Leben von jedem um dich herum zu verlieren!

Ich bin so dankbar, dass ich ein Teil dieser Gemeinschaft bin, die mir Tiefen meines Herzens zeigt, die ich nicht im Traum vermutet hätte. Meine ganze Umgebung heute zeigte sich verwandelt: Ich erhielt gleich 2 Konzertangebote an einem Morgen, hatte tiefes und bedeutendes Geplauder (wusste nicht, dass man sich über Plaudereien jemandem auch nah fühlen kann:-))), hab viel gearbeitet und einige schwierige Situationen durch klares und offenes Kommunizieren bewältigt!

Mach heute noch mit, es ist magisch!
Mit viel Liebe an alle meine Freunde und meinem tiefsten Dank und Liebe an Ariel & Shya, die all das möglich gemacht haben, indem sie teilten und teilen, was sie haben!

Ursula, St. Gallen, Switzerland