Intimacy and Money! from Giovanni in Queens, NY
Wednesday, June 30th, 2010
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Hi everybody!
Bill gives tips about how to have an active sex life after almost 50 years of marriage.
Fernanda reveals some useful dating tips. (Note: This podcast is in English and Spanish.)
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Something became very clear to me at a weekend workshop I recently attended called, The Art of Listening. A significant portion of the participants in the course, more than I’ve seen in a long time, were new people who came in from all over the country. The workshop was vibrant, alive and fresh in a way that was very new and exciting to me!
I had heard it said many times before at other workshops I’ve attended, that the new people attending are the “lifeblood” of Transformation. This time, it became a very real experience for me to hear that. Like all of us at one time, they never knew this possibility existed for them and are intrigued and excited by it. They remind us of how rare it is to discover living in the moment and how we each make a huge difference. Those of us who regularly attend Monday night seminars and workshops “live” transformation as a lifestyle. The new people we invite are the fresh air, spark and fire that keeps it going and reignites the excitement of discovery.
Today, as I was sitting on the train, reading a journal, I happened to look up and find myself looking directly and deeply into the eyes of a man facing me from a row away. It was a long moment of warmth and it filled my whole body, like there was a sun inside me, and it started to shine and warm me from the inside. I could not stop smiling and looked around a bit stupidly. The man also seemed to be unusually awake. I was quite shocked about my reaction, as my whole body seemed really large and warm- it was a very beautiful shock. And I realized that I did not have to have sex with this man and I did not have to exchange phone numbers nor do anything else that I didn’t feel like.
Realizing this was a relief from previous occasions when I would not even dare allow myself to look so openly into a stranger’s (especially a man’s) eyes, because of possible “dangersâ€.
As the train came to a stop, I told him how beautiful it was to just look into each other’s eyes and he replied, with a big smile, “ciao.†I then left (Actually, I flew!) because suddenly I did not know what to do. When I went up the stairs, I heard a voice behind me: “ciao, buona giornata.†I guess it was him, but I did not turn around- I was so shy about what happened and how much it touched me. This is my diamond of the day.
-Stephanie B.
This is quite a lovely article from the archives. Read how an individual discovered Transformation & the Kanes and what her first experience was at a workshop. She captures it exquisitely! Be careful: Results like these can be addictive…
Beauty Not The Beast
By Holly Shulman
Some time ago I moved to California looking for a change in my life. I noticed that California was ripe with all sorts of New Age options for finding happiness… for transformation. So, I took myself to a Whole Life Expo in the heart of LA, where all the New Age stuff was gathered under one roof. I thought it would be a great way to sample everything and then pick out what I thought could fix me, without getting into anything too weird, of course. There was a brochure listing every offering. Ariel and Shya Kane were pictured in it, along with a blurb about their free lecture and three hour workshop entitled Instantaneous Transformation. In the picture they looked normal. In fact, they looked beautiful in a very natural and down-to-earth way. I don’t remember what the blurb said, but I was hooked by the word Instantaneous. I wanted something instant. I wanted a quick cure for my problem.
About two weeks ago I had the great opportunity to chat with Ariel and Shya about dating. It was an amazing and eye opening experience… I am not sure what happened but suddenly and miraculously I have so many dates!! I have been scheduling meetings in open air markets, cafes, during my lunch hours, at museums, going to play tennis, cooking… And all the guys have been fun to be with! I somehow discovered how to be with each of them, not thinking if they were “relationship material” while at the same time I stopped putting pressure on myself to find “THE ONE”. Ariel and Shya masterfully hit the nail on the head when they explained that I had been conditioned to be “a good catholic girl” through my culture and I’d been approaching dating as a “mini-marriage” in hopes that the date would turn into a husband. The thought of just enjoying myself while meeting many men was outside of my realm of possibilities…I mean ‘What kind of woman dates many men?.. I am sure you and I came up with the same word..it starts with a W and ends with an E.
I attended Ariel & Shya’s “Passion: Revitalize Your Life” workshop in January. While I was attending the workshop, my four-year old son, Milan, spent time with his dad over the weekend. When I picked him up from school on the Monday after, he was so completely joyful and confident, having discovered his new abilities: ice skating on a single blade, snapping and whistling. It was so inspiring to see him so full of life and I knew that he was truly connected into the magic that happened during the weekend Passion workshop.
During that evening, Milan and I were hanging out at home and he called to me across the apartment, speaking in his own dialogue of made-up language. I responded back to him in made-up language and we had the funniest dialogue, exploding with laughter. I was so amazed, because speaking in a dialogue of made-up language was actually an activity we did at the Passion workshop! I could truly see how tapped into me he was. I could feel how when I took care of myself and went for my life passionately and without reservations, that my son was directly linked discovering his own gifts and passions, too.
(From the blog “Bright-Eyed Life“)
At this past week’s Monday Night Alive, a successful young actor in the group began to speak about how when he gets a new acting job, he “puts his foot on the brake” in order to balance his life out. And if I remember correctly, sort of as a reward to relax for having gotten a solid job. Ariel & Shya told him how that’s the point in time when he should be putting his “foot on the gas” and not on the brake. He should line-up a new job for after his run of shows. The Kanes then asked “how good are you willing to let it get?” Meaning how successful will you allow yourself to be, without dimming yourself down to fit in with others? To allow yourself to shine brightly, regardless of those who might try to bring you down, because they are jealous, competing, or afraid that you will leave them behind. This is why a support system of those who can be honest with you about how you are being, and are there to really support you when others might aid you in diminishing in your greatness, though they don’t do it intentionally. I love the phrase “you can’t do it alone.” Boy, how I do wish I that I could do it all on my own. I naturally want to be independent and do it all by myself. Thing is that is a lonely way to live I’m finding. It’s easier and more fulfilling to allow myself to be supported, and to support others. It makes things feel effortless.