Lately, I found it challenging to stay in the moment. There is a lot of chatter going on in my mind and my breath is shallow.  On one of this “lost in thoughts days”, it was while walking to my work place, I came up with a game (out of the blue) that I started to play immediately!

Dear Friends,

10 days  ago, I thought it would be a nice idea to send my mother some flowers at Mother’s Day, May 9th.  So I went in the Internet to my online flower shop and checked Mother’s Days flower bouquets. They were beautiful, but nothing really touched my heart. So I checked the other offers, and suddenly a stunning bouquet of a dozen large red roses popped up. A beautiful heart shaped tin box with filled chocolate was attached.  It looked just gorgeous! Then my little voice in my head started: “No, this is something for lovers, not for moms.” And then I saw, they are only available tll April 30th. Ok, enough resonable reasons to forget about it. I looked for something else, and one minute later I jumped back to the roses.  They looked so incredible precious and beautiful. (more…)

It all started in Costa Rica. Actually it started just after the completion of the Kanes’ Costa Rican Adventure 2010, which was the best ever, by the way. Although I was inspired and really wanted to go again in 2011, I had hesitated to sign up for Costa Rica next year, because I didn’t want to register without letting my 16-year-old daughter Ayla in on my decision first. This past year, when I had let Ayla know I was going, she had pouted for a week or more because I hadn’t consulted her before committing to go.  I had actually hesitated before telling her because I was afraid she might disapprove!

On the way to my room to get my luggage before heading home, I ran into Ariel and Shya on one of the beautiful covered walkways and we started chatting.  When I outlined my dilemma, they pointed out that what I was actually doing was to ask my daughter for her permission to go to Costa Rica again and that it is I who is the mother who needs to say what’s going on – not vice versa. They said that I was trying to be Ayla’s friend instead of her mother.  It was not long before I discovered how true this really had been.

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Bill gives tips about how to have an active sex life after almost 50 years of marriage.

Dear Friends!

I just came back from a funeral that I attended with my husband Stephan (thanks for being there for me!).  This was the funeral of a former client of mine whose name is Christine and I want to tell you about her:

Christine was sitting in a wheelchair since she was 5 years old, because of amyotaxia (a kind of spasticity, that goes in “waves” through the body so that you can’t really control your movements) and could only walk with the help of other people.  If she wanted to move by herself, she used to crawl on her bottom.  I had been Christine’s physical therapist for several years, before she moved out of her home in Hamburg 5 years ago into her own apartment in the city (she got a job at the zoological institute), where we found a new therapist for her. (more…)

Mac offers tips on dealing with aging parents.

Dear Transformers,

Amazing stuff happened last weekend

My aunt Anne from Hamburg, Germany threw a birthday brunch party on Sunday. So my parents, who live 2 hours away, took the opportunity to arrange a weekend in Hamburg. On Saturday they visited my boyfriend Jürgen & me, in the evening they watched a Musical in Hamburg and on Sunday we met all together at Anne’s place.

We had a very nice time together. We ate Jürgen’s brilliant homemade plum cake…mmmh, and everything went very smoothly. We talked about our experience of Instantaneous Transformation and my father was especially interested. During our chat Jürgen and I also discovered that we had a different opinion about how to understand one issue of Transformation and had a discussion about it.

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Hi People!

This has been such a spiritual day.  I’ve been saying YES to everything, including many incomplete tasks in my apartment, and in my personal life and in my professional life.

This morning my father and his girlfriend Karen visited me to drop off a piece of furniture he wanted to give me.  What a blessing my father is!  Always giving!  Always caring about me.  He doesn’t owe me anything, yet he has all this patience and support for me.

We all had breakfast together in Astoria, and I felt closer with both of them than ever before.  In the past I’d had realizations about the way I would treat him like I was a kid, not being supportive to him, draining his energy, etc.  In the last two years, my relationship with my father has transformed big time, but today was actually a higher level of maturity and cooperation.

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Dear friends,

I spent some lovely days of vacation in South Germany at the foothills of the Alps with my father, a 68-year-old wonderful, humorous, caring man. We did some tours, had health treatments, lovely food, I went horseback riding twice and we had lot of fun. I bought a nice pair of hiking shoes that made walking much more fun and easy. I liked them so much that one day I put them on just to walk across to the butcher’s

I have been sharing transformation with my father since my first workshop with Ariel & Shya in spring 2007. He loves what has happened for me since then and supports me very much. I always invite him to join in. In these days I spent with him, I saw a lot of my behaviors, fears and worries in him. We shared about it and he told me about the worries of the generation of his parents in general but also concerning him who fell often ill as a child. I felt so much love and compassion for him, for all of them, and could also look at myself with love, not with judgments.

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