Bill gives tips about how to have an active sex life after almost 50 years of marriage.

Dear Friends!

I just came back from a funeral that I attended with my husband Stephan (thanks for being there for me!).  This was the funeral of a former client of mine whose name is Christine and I want to tell you about her:

Christine was sitting in a wheelchair since she was 5 years old, because of amyotaxia (a kind of spasticity, that goes in “waves” through the body so that you can’t really control your movements) and could only walk with the help of other people.  If she wanted to move by herself, she used to crawl on her bottom.  I had been Christine’s physical therapist for several years, before she moved out of her home in Hamburg 5 years ago into her own apartment in the city (she got a job at the zoological institute), where we found a new therapist for her. (more…)

Mac offers tips on dealing with aging parents.

Dear Transformers,

Amazing stuff happened last weekend

My aunt Anne from Hamburg, Germany threw a birthday brunch party on Sunday. So my parents, who live 2 hours away, took the opportunity to arrange a weekend in Hamburg. On Saturday they visited my boyfriend Jürgen & me, in the evening they watched a Musical in Hamburg and on Sunday we met all together at Anne’s place.

We had a very nice time together. We ate Jürgen’s brilliant homemade plum cake…mmmh, and everything went very smoothly. We talked about our experience of Instantaneous Transformation and my father was especially interested. During our chat Jürgen and I also discovered that we had a different opinion about how to understand one issue of Transformation and had a discussion about it.

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Hi People!

This has been such a spiritual day.  I’ve been saying YES to everything, including many incomplete tasks in my apartment, and in my personal life and in my professional life.

This morning my father and his girlfriend Karen visited me to drop off a piece of furniture he wanted to give me.  What a blessing my father is!  Always giving!  Always caring about me.  He doesn’t owe me anything, yet he has all this patience and support for me.

We all had breakfast together in Astoria, and I felt closer with both of them than ever before.  In the past I’d had realizations about the way I would treat him like I was a kid, not being supportive to him, draining his energy, etc.  In the last two years, my relationship with my father has transformed big time, but today was actually a higher level of maturity and cooperation.

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Dear friends,

I spent some lovely days of vacation in South Germany at the foothills of the Alps with my father, a 68-year-old wonderful, humorous, caring man. We did some tours, had health treatments, lovely food, I went horseback riding twice and we had lot of fun. I bought a nice pair of hiking shoes that made walking much more fun and easy. I liked them so much that one day I put them on just to walk across to the butcher’s

I have been sharing transformation with my father since my first workshop with Ariel & Shya in spring 2007. He loves what has happened for me since then and supports me very much. I always invite him to join in. In these days I spent with him, I saw a lot of my behaviors, fears and worries in him. We shared about it and he told me about the worries of the generation of his parents in general but also concerning him who fell often ill as a child. I felt so much love and compassion for him, for all of them, and could also look at myself with love, not with judgments.

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Bill discovers that he has stopped treating his job as a tenured professor at one of the world’s largest art schools as his “day job” and his 48-year-old marriage is the best it’s ever been.

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The Kanes suggest that Ellen give herself a break rather than pick on herself for things she has or hasn’t done.

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Hi Friends-

Ariel and Shya often call Transformation the “slack-jawed approach to enlightenment” (where you simply see a mechanical behavior, let your jaw hang and say “huh.”) I had such a great slack-jawed moment the other day and I just have to share it with you all. I had been in a fight with my brother off and on for the last two weeks. It was around the subject of money and not paying bills on time, which historically we have both been very tense and defensive about. We had had a phone call about a particular money situation where I thought I had been very direct and straight forward, but I realized afterwards (with the help of the Kanes and my boyfriend Andy) that I had been condescending and unkind, and was really holding onto being right about my point of view. I apologized to my brother, and things got better between us, but it was still a little shaky and I think there was really a part of me that was not ready to let go of being right.
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