Fernanda reveals some useful dating tips. (Note: This podcast is in English and Spanish.)
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Bill discovers that he has stopped treating his job as a tenured professor at one of the world’s largest art schools as his “day job” and his 48-year-old marriage is the best it’s ever been.
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Dear Friends,
Hello! I’m in New York, about to attend the Art of Relating this weekend, which I’m very, very excited about!! Meanwhile, I have a little magical moment to share…
When I arrived in New York, I queued up to go through Customs. After taking my fingerprints the guy at the desk started asking me questions: “what is the purpose of your visit?” “how long do you plan to stay in the United States?”…
Now, I must admit, this is a situation (official, stranger, etc..) at when my shyness/holding back would usually kick in and I might lie and say something like: “I’m on vacation.” Because it would just seem easier that way. He would stamp my form, I would take it and no real interaction would be necessary.
Hi Everyone,
Today Christina, Haydee, Susan Finch, Fernanda, Jodi, Madhu, Mike, David and Val put brochures and postcards (for either Monday Night Alive, Starting the New Year Right, Being Here Radio Show) in almost every shop and apartment building on 2nd Avenue from 42nd Street to about 30th Street and in neighboring areas as well. We had such a great time speaking with people about Transformation and the Kanes. Just our presence was enough to engage people, which made inviting them to workshops easy and fun!
The time flew and we met some lovely people and we intimately got to know the neighborhood where Monday Night Alive! happens each week. One restaurant-owner even took menus out of the menu holder to put our postcards in so they would be more prominently displayed (for next time we will bring our own!).
We are excited about the possibility of what we shared today, what’s possible for the people we met, and we invite you to be take part in sharing Transformation, too! We will be sending a follow up email soon with simple, easy ideas about how each of us can do this.
Love,
The Postcard Crew
Today, as I was sitting on the train, reading a journal, I happened to look up and find myself looking directly and deeply into the eyes of a man facing me from a row away. It was a long moment of warmth and it filled my whole body, like there was a sun inside me, and it started to shine and warm me from the inside. I could not stop smiling and looked around a bit stupidly. The man also seemed to be unusually awake. I was quite shocked about my reaction, as my whole body seemed really large and warm- it was a very beautiful shock. And I realized that I did not have to have sex with this man and I did not have to exchange phone numbers nor do anything else that I didn’t feel like.
Realizing this was a relief from previous occasions when I would not even dare allow myself to look so openly into a stranger’s (especially a man’s) eyes, because of possible “dangersâ€.
As the train came to a stop, I told him how beautiful it was to just look into each other’s eyes and he replied, with a big smile, “ciao.†I then left (Actually, I flew!) because suddenly I did not know what to do. When I went up the stairs, I heard a voice behind me: “ciao, buona giornata.†I guess it was him, but I did not turn around- I was so shy about what happened and how much it touched me. This is my diamond of the day.
-Stephanie B.
About two weeks ago I had the great opportunity to chat with Ariel and Shya about dating. It was an amazing and eye opening experience… I am not sure what happened but suddenly and miraculously I have so many dates!! I have been scheduling meetings in open air markets, cafes, during my lunch hours, at museums, going to play tennis, cooking… And all the guys have been fun to be with! I somehow discovered how to be with each of them, not thinking if they were “relationship material” while at the same time I stopped putting pressure on myself to find “THE ONE”. Ariel and Shya masterfully hit the nail on the head when they explained that I had been conditioned to be “a good catholic girl” through my culture and I’d been approaching dating as a “mini-marriage” in hopes that the date would turn into a husband. The thought of just enjoying myself while meeting many men was outside of my realm of possibilities…I mean ‘What kind of woman dates many men?.. I am sure you and I came up with the same word..it starts with a W and ends with an E.
I attended Ariel & Shya’s “Passion: Revitalize Your Life” workshop in January. While I was attending the workshop, my four-year old son, Milan, spent time with his dad over the weekend. When I picked him up from school on the Monday after, he was so completely joyful and confident, having discovered his new abilities: ice skating on a single blade, snapping and whistling. It was so inspiring to see him so full of life and I knew that he was truly connected into the magic that happened during the weekend Passion workshop.
During that evening, Milan and I were hanging out at home and he called to me across the apartment, speaking in his own dialogue of made-up language. I responded back to him in made-up language and we had the funniest dialogue, exploding with laughter. I was so amazed, because speaking in a dialogue of made-up language was actually an activity we did at the Passion workshop! I could truly see how tapped into me he was. I could feel how when I took care of myself and went for my life passionately and without reservations, that my son was directly linked discovering his own gifts and passions, too.
Ariel & Shya often talk about how transformation happens when you’re really listening to someone else, because that’s when you take your attention off yourself. It gives me such joy whenever I manage to really listen, because suddenly I notice that I’ve stopped listening to my own (usually negative) internal dialogue. As they say, you can’t do two things at once! And, when I’m not listening to my own thoughts, that’s when I’m in the moment. And when I’m in the moment (instead of in my head), then I’m not working on myself, not being judgment or self-critical. It’s when I’m enlightened!
Here’s a little story to illustrate just that:
Last Sunday I was cycling along the river. My husband Artur, and my brother Jack, were cycling behind me and talking. I was ahead, to be alone but in their company. On the water river-boats floated slowly past us, travelling in the opposite direction.
(From the blog “Halcyon Life“)
Tonight, a few of us had drinks at a midtown spot, Pera. Very nice locale, good wine list, great company. What made this particular happy hour so extraordinary was a simple question posed by my awesome friend, Eric. We had been listening to our friend, Emmanuelle, tell us about her amazing honeymoon with her honey, Luis, in Tanzania. She stayed in romantic camps and saw luscious scenery and took a safari scattered with exotic animals. Listening to her I was thinking, “Ooooh, I would love to go to Africa. Africa’s far. Africa is wild. I wonder how many vaccinations I would need to go to Africa. Oooh, but I really would like to go. But Africa must be really expensive. And I don’t speak the various languages. Gee, it’s too bad I can’t go to Africa…” At that moment, Eric asked a simple, but brilliant question. He turned to the rest of us and said, are you ready for this? “Hey, why don’t we go to Africa?”
