Hello to you all!

I got a lovely e-mail from my brother after we had been fighting for quite a few months and I’m so happy about it!

The story went like this:

We work together and in recent months we really fought a lot.  I didn’t see my part in it, I just thought that he was so negative and every meeting we had I wished it would be postponed.

But then while I was walking in a beautiful spring meadow, I realized how much I resented him and the situation and how much I fought with him. The next Day we had a meeting and in the first minute, my resentful pattern was still operating, but I saw it and could let go of it.  We had a smooth meeting and got lots of things done. I was very happy and relieved and a day later we had a really lovely talk about business and personal things. It was really wonderful and even better because after the talk he sent me a lovely email!

I’m still so astonished how much transformation affects my surroundings simply by the way I behave.

Thank you Ariel & Shya & all of you for spreading this gift to the world and me.

I wish you a Wonderful Week and Lots of Love,
Corinne Gabriel
Switzerland

Dear Friends,

Yesterday, I had such an incredible experience sharing Transformation with my son, Milan. I invited him to listen to a podcast with Ariel & Shya, and it was amazing. It had never occurred to me to do so before since the content is primarily for an adult audience, but I was just curious.

I chose the podcast with Stephanie H. called “How to Have It All.” The Kanes presented the possibility that “no two things can occupy the same space at the same time,” that in order to fully have a sense of well being, she could only do one thing at a time. They then went on to discuss different areas of her life. I could really relate.

After it was over, I asked Milan what he thought. I certainly did not expect his answer. He said, “You can’t do two things at the same time, so if I’m playing with Lincoln Logs and I want to go to the museum to see the knights, then I won’t really be playing with my Lincoln Logs because I’ll be thinking about the knights.” (We were about to go the museum shortly after.) It was amazing how he seemed to relate it to his life at 5 years old. He seemed to be able to grasp that when he was doing one thing and thinking about another, it took away from the experience in front of him.

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The Kanes often often often talk about ‘letting the universe support you,’ instead of driving ahead toward reaching something that is yet unattained, but known -
as opposed to letting the universe support you into something great that you may not yet know about!!!

So I am walking down the street and run into a pack of literally 40 or so Labrador Retriever puppies, all wearing vests that say Guide Dog Puppy-in-Training.  Now – I have just written a book that involves laboradors, Guide Dogs, and Search and Rescue Dogs – I am very aware of how astonishingly important these dogs are as service dogs both to the blind and to police and fire departments. They are here today looking for volunteers to raise puppies.

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If you want to create a working, supportive relationship with another, it is imperative that, you be willing to be complete in the relationship you have with your parents. The dictionary defines complete as “lacking no component part; full; whole; entire.” But what does being incomplete with your parents mean? It is when you are looking to prove them wrong or right for what they did, or didn’t do, or when you endlessly search for their weak points.

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Dear friends,

I would like to share with you part of my Holidays.  My boyfriend and I traveled by train five hours to my parents’ to celebrate Christmas with them. I was very excited to see my parents and my brothers with their families and to celebrate the Holidays with them. During our journey I listened to an episode of Ariel and Shya’s radio show titled: Transforming the Holidays. Days before as I downloaded the radio show on to my ipod I was already very curious what I was going to experience while listening to the show. During the show I often got a smile on my face and was very inspired by what Ariel and Shya said in response to the brilliant questions that were asked. There was one sentence that especially caught my attention: the suggestion to speak and interact with our parents not in their function as parents but as people.

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Something became very clear to me at a weekend workshop I recently attended called, The Art of Listening. A significant portion of the participants in the course, more than I’ve seen in a long time, were new people who came in from all over the country. The workshop was vibrant, alive and fresh in a way that was very new and exciting to me!

I had heard it said many times before at other workshops I’ve attended, that the new people attending are the “lifeblood” of Transformation. This time, it became a very real experience for me to hear that. Like all of us at one time, they never knew this possibility existed for them and are intrigued and excited by it. They remind us of how rare it is to discover living in the moment and how we each make a huge difference. Those of us who regularly attend Monday night seminars and workshops “live” transformation as a lifestyle. The new people we invite are the fresh air, spark and fire that keeps it going and reignites the excitement of discovery.

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I feel soooo self-expressive and have to share with you what happened to me since the wonderful workshop “The Art of Listening” in Hamburg, Germany in October! I had been really looking forward to it because as a Psychologist, I spend my life listening to other people. Ironically, during the workshop something funny happened; I suddenly saw that it was time to stop hiding by only listening to what other people had to say. It was time to listen to myself!

So I had one of my intimate talks with life and said: “Look, I know that I can be of help to people and would love to do it, so if you see a way of supporting me, now would be a good time.”

I have a strong interest in using a communication method called “Marte Me”, meaning ‘on one’s strength’. It is something not traditionally used by Psychologists, yet aligns perfectly with the Kanes’ Workshops on ‘Living in the Moment’. I’ts something that can be used by parents or anyone working with children. In my “plan”, I sat down and decided to contact all the Pediatricians in Hamburg and introduce myself so they can refer people to me…

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On Saturday, Artur (my husband) and I headed off to visit his family (brother, Celso; sister-in-law, Steph; niece; nephew; and sister, Idilia.) Now, I have a confession to make: I usually dread these visits. I usually fail to implement the brilliant suggestion Ariel & Shya make about doing things as if they were your own idea. Instead, I usually sit in their living room, or in their garden, and make small talk while I count the minutes until we can leave. For, while I love Idilia very much and am very close to her, the rest of the family I have just never connected with at all. I’ve given myself many reasons for this, reasons that mostly allow the responsibility to fall outside of myself! : we’re so different, we have nothing in common, they’re not interested in me, I’m not interested in them, we don’t care about the same things, they’re boring, they just talk small talk, there is no chance to get deeper with them – no chance to make a real connection… So, every time I would go, while holding tightly to my judgments, my heart closed to any other possibility of what it might be like to be with them. Well, the weekend started out with me still like this, and, as we set off to drive south, Artur and I started bickering a bit, and I realised it was because I was resisting the situation and blaming him for it. So I stopped, right then, apologised, and made a commitment to myself to embrace the trip, the people and choose to actually have fun!

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Ever since attending the Time and Project Management course, I find myself looking at my life as though it is a river of opportunities to be a role model, a healing presence and available for everybody around me.

Today, walking down a busy sidewalk, I began to notice something that happened as I passed different ‘types’ of people; men and women of different ages, level of attractiveness, etc…
I discovered that I automatically put on an ‘act’ for each person as they approached. With an attractive woman, I pretended not to be interested. With an older woman, I became exceptionally polite and smiley. As I stood near an older couple, I acted like a little boy. When a good looking man passed, I acted tough and mean, as though I was stronger, smarter, or even better.
I realized that I had been “staging” acts like this for years as a way to protect myself from people seeing who I genuinely am.

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About two weeks ago I had the great opportunity to chat with Ariel and Shya about dating. It was an amazing and eye opening experience… I am not sure what happened but suddenly and miraculously I have so many dates!! I have been scheduling meetings in open air markets, cafes, during my lunch hours, at museums, going to play tennis, cooking… And all the guys have been fun to be with! I somehow discovered how to be with each of them, not thinking if they were “relationship material” while at the same time I stopped putting pressure on myself to find “THE ONE”. Ariel and Shya masterfully hit the nail on the head when they explained that I had been conditioned to be “a good catholic girl” through my culture and I’d been approaching dating as a “mini-marriage” in hopes that the date would turn into a husband. The thought of just enjoying myself while meeting many men was outside of my realm of possibilities…I mean ‘What kind of woman dates many men?.. I am sure you and I came up with the same word..it starts with a W and ends with an E.

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