A couple of weeks ago, I was in the Key Food grocery store by my house and as I was leaving, I noticed on the bulletin board a dazzling ad that caught my eye. It was for a housecleaning service. It said, “I will make your place sparkle!” with a very nice font.  Below is the ad for you to take a look at.

The funny thing is that for quite some time now, I’ve been thinking about getting my place cleaned by someone. I’ve been resisting cleaning my place myself and I just thought it would be easier to pay someone to do it. But I resisted even doing that with thoughts of “Why should I pay someone else? it’s my place. It’s not that big. I should be able to do it myself,” etc. Anyway, the one thing I couldn’t resist was this ad. It was like it was meant for me! So I called the lady Nancy and she came over and she cleaned like a demon. She did a great job and she was very professional.

The great thing was that I even got into the act and went into the spare bedroom which I avoid going into because it has so much clutter and I didn’t want to see it. But that day, I went in there and put labels on my folders, and did a massive cleanup: shredding old documents and statements, setting up a spare TV and DVD player, getting my college diploma framed(!), etc. The work continues. I am now cleaning up my closet and re-organizing. I also gave away old books and electronic equipment. (I’m sure someone in my apartment complex is grateful!)

I also have a video game system (Playstation 2 with lots of accessories) that has outlived its usefulness. I simply looked and saw that I’m done with it. So I’ve put it up for sale and it will give me back a lot of space.

I also came across a lot of old journals and took a peek. And that’s all I could bear to do! I had pages and pages in book after book of working on myself. It was unbelievable! I’ve thrown it all out! Some of it was vitriol directed against my dad and I couldn’t even believe that it was me who wrote all that.
My relationship with my dad has never been better and I truly enjoy spending time with both my parents. Our relationship has gotten so much sweeter.

Thank you Ariel & Shya for blazing the path and for teaching us that life recognizes our hearts’ true desires and supports us even when we least expect it. And thanks to everyone in the community with whom it is such an awesome privilege to know and to share my life with.

Love,
Madhu

I want to share some exciting news with you.

After working over 13 years mostly as an actor, I got a new job in Europe’s biggest and most beautiful Spa and Treatment Center near Cologne. The name is Mediterana. For the opening of a new Indian section at the end of August they are building a new team called ‘The Buddha team’ that I am part of. I will be responsible for reception desk, looking after guests, special happenings in the saunas and meditation.

I am also still working on stage; I am playing a very nice part in Pippi Longstocking in a beautiful outside area in the countryside. I auditioned a lot this year for theater jobs and got the most brilliant feedback ever since.

When the possibility of working in the spa showed up, I first hesitated to go to the interview because for working there you usually need in advance a certificate in life-saving, which includes among others 82 feet of diving.  My brain told me that I would never be able to do that: staying under water to swim that distance.  Then I saw that I told myself a lot of stories before that were not true – for example that I can’t ride a horse (something I did almost every morning in Costa Rica this year).  Not to mention that I have to be on stage with Pippi’s horse “Little Old Man” this summer.

So I decided to not listen to that garbage, went to the interview and the most amazing thing happened: When I was there, they told me about the new Buddha-Team that they are going to create, and that they want me to work on that one.  As opposed to the other teams, the Buddha team is not working at the swimming pools and I don’t need the life-saving certificate to get started.  If necessary I can get trained for the certificate during work and I am looking forward to swim 82 feet under water one day.

After I came back from the interview (which, by the way, went very well and lasted more than an hour), I got a phone call and a theater in Kassel (155 miles away from Cologne) offered me two very interesting parts in a play and a musical show for four months.
The next day I got the offer to play a tour around the Christmas Season.

But I decided to go for the new experience in the Wellness Center. I am very excited, because the people there were so much a YES to me and I am having a new possibility in earning money and starting something new and totally different.  I am sure, that this will support me in life and also my acting carreer that I am not giving up.

Thanks everybody and especially Ariel and Shya for for showing me that there are always so many more possibilities than I think.

I am looking forward to seeing a lot of you at the Art of Relating Workshop in September in Hamburg. When you know that this is something you want to do and are not signed up yet – do it! Come! Give yourself the gift!

Love,
Arne

Hello! I’m in New York, about to attend the Art of Relating this weekend, which I’m very, very excited about!! Meanwhile, I have a little magical moment to share…

When I arrived in New York, I queued up to go through Customs. After taking my fingerprints the guy at the desk started asking me questions: “what is the purpose of your visit?” “how long do you plan to stay in the United States?”…

Now, I must admit, this is a situation (official, stranger, etc..) at when my shyness/holding back would usually kick in and I might lie and say something like: “I’m on vacation.” Because it would just seem easier that way. He would stamp my form, I would take it and no real interaction would be necessary.

But why do I sometimes shy away from the possibilities of connecting with strangers? I think mainly because it makes me feel a little nervous about how they might react to the “real me” I often have thoughts about who I feel “safe” sharing Transformation with: generally people I know, or strangers I consider to be “open” to hearing all about Transformation – and no doubt my filter/judgement process leaves out a lot of lovely folks who are simply longing to know all about Transformation!

Of course, I realised, standing there at the Customs desk, my actions in the past actually had nothingat all to do with how open other people are, and everything to do with how open I am! Because when I’m totally excited, in the moment, not listening to my thoughts, then I just share with everyone, regardless!

And, in that moment I was feeling very open and excited about coming to the workshop, and didn’t mind that he (the custom’s guy) seemed a little bored and grumpy, so I just went straight ahead:

“I’ve come to attend a personal growth workshop.” I said.

He raised an eyebrow.

“It’s on Instantaneous Transformation.” I chattered on. “It’s run by an American couple called Ariel and Shya Kane. They are fantastic, I love their workshops, that’s why I’ve come to New York to attend one!”

In that moment he suddenly smiled. “It must be pretty good, for you to come all the way from England,” he said.

“Yes, they really are fantastic!” I grinned, “I go to their workshops in Costa Rica every year, and twice a year in Germany too!”

“Wow,” he said.

In that moment I realised we were no longer a Customs Official and a Visa Applicant, but two human beings actually relating to each other.  Something had shifted and it felt fantastic. I had come out of my box and he had come out of his. I suddenly felt more alive, more open-hearted, happy, and full of Transformation

Then he stamped my passport, handed back my forms and said: “have a fantastic time at your workshop.”

I smiled at him and said thank you, I would. I went to collect my luggage with a smile on my face and a bounce in my step. Transformation had just turned what could have been another “mundane” moment into a
magical experience. It was simply amaaazing.

Anyway, I send my love to you all, and very much look forward to seeing many of you at the Art of Relating tomorrow!! Yay!!!

Loads of Love, Menna xxx

The Kanes often often often talk about ‘letting the universe support you,’ instead of driving ahead toward reaching something that is yet unattained, but known -
as opposed to letting the universe support you into something great that you may not yet know about!!!

So I am walking down the street and run into a pack of literally 40 or so Labrador Retriever puppies, all wearing vests that say Guide Dog Puppy-in-Training.  Now – I have just written a book that involves laboradors, Guide Dogs, and Search and Rescue Dogs – I am very aware of how astonishingly important these dogs are as service dogs both to the blind and to police and fire departments. They are here today looking for volunteers to raise puppies.

One of my dreams in life is to have a home full of animals – dogs, birds, cats, horses, a donkey! So far, I’ve managed only 3 cats in my entire adult life. Some people dream of travel – I travel, and dream of having a dog!

I logically figured I would have to either change my work substantially or never have dogs. Dogs over 20lbs (which is the size of my cat) have to fly in cargo, which is both dangerous and expensive, and its illegal to fly them in cargo in the summer and the winter. Plus – a big dog needs a lot of care, which, when you are away all the time, is very costly.

I told the lady, there was nothing I would love more than a puppy, but I travel… ‘By AIRPLANE?!!?’ she said. ‘Umm, yes, definitely by airplane.’ ‘Through security?!?’ she said. ‘Always through security.’ ‘Do you meet security officials?!?’ She was so excited, I wondered if she thought I had said I go to the moon. ‘We need people who travel by airplane, desperately!’

What had not occurred to me, was that: 1) blind people travel, too, 2) search and rescue dogs frequently have to go to emergencies via airplane and helicopter, 3) a lot of people who might think to volunteer to raise a puppy (ie moms and their kids) do not have the opportunity to travel frequently. These dogs need to be socialized at an early age to things like airplanes! Who knew! And:

It is U.S. Federal Regulation that these dogs travel wherever humans go- buses, trains, subways, planes, restaurants, stores. All vet care and free boarding are provided by the organization. And the dog comes with a passport for international clearance to all US friendly countries!

Blew my whole story/complaint fest right out of the proverbial water!!!

***Like the Kane’s say, let the universe support you, however ridiculously unreasonable the request, and let it provide it in its OWN way, not the way we know or the way we expect. ***

And how great does it show up! Better than I could ever have thought up myself.

- Caitlin W. H.

I would like to share with you part of my Holidays.  My boyfriend and I traveled by train five hours to my parents’ to celebrate Christmas with them. I was very excited to see my parents and my brothers with their families and to celebrate the Holidays with them. During our journey I listened to an episode of Ariel and Shya’s radio show titled: Transforming the Holidays. Days before as I downloaded the radio show on to my ipod I was already very curious what I was going to experience while listening to the show. During the show I often got a smile on my face and was very inspired by what Ariel and Shya said in response to the brilliant questions that were asked. There was one sentence that especially caught my attention: the suggestion to speak and interact with our parents not in their function as parents but as people.

In the past, I often worked on my parents and tried to improve them, to improve everything around them, even their relationship. Well, as we arrived, I started to try to improve them… But in a moment I could see my behavior and let it go; instead I started to interact with them as people, as a couple we were with.  We were just there and had fun While watching, being with them and experiencing them I could see how much I am them. I cannot describe it but I felt so much compassion with them. My heart was filled with love and to say goodbye at our departure felt so much easier than the departures before, without drama this time.

Today, 10 minutes ago while I started to write this email, my mother called and asked me to create another invitation card for their golden wedding (50 years), which is in January.  I said yes I’ll do it and asked her for whom this card will be. She answered that the husband of a neighbor past away recently and they want to take care of this woman and include her to their celebration. Wow, her voice was so alive. I am impressed.  This behavior of hers, to include somebody who is not that close, is one I never experienced before. In this moment, I feel so rich and thankful.

Ariel and Shya I thank you so much for your being, wisdom, Transformation and this great community. I so much appreciate the space you create for everyone in this community to discover and experience ourselves.

A big hug and love,

Katja

Today, walking down a busy sidewalk, I began to notice something that happened as I passed different ‘types’ of people; men and women of different ages, level of attractiveness, etc…
I discovered that I automatically put on an ‘act’ for each person as they approached. With an attractive woman, I pretended not to be interested. With an older woman, I became exceptionally polite and smiley. As I stood near an older couple, I acted like a little boy. When a good looking man passed, I acted tough and mean, as though I was stronger, smarter, or even better.
I realized that I had been “staging” acts like this for years as a way to protect myself from people seeing who I genuinely am.

Simply seeing this without judging it created a shift in me. I realized that who I am is, in fact, a much more pleasant, helpful, and generous person than the one I had been pretending to be. It became clear that I’ve been “ripping people off” by acting around them instead of simply allowing myself to be who I am. This is something I’ve learned from being in a “transformational” environment and taking workshops with the Kanes.

I became aware of the unkind affect that passing judgment has on others as well as myself. Once I saw this, it completely opened up other experiences for me later on in the day as I visited the Metropolitan Museum of Art and my friend’s painting studio in Brooklyn. It felt perfect exactly the way it was. Walking down the street, I felt at ease being friendly with strangers, and I found myself taking care of the ’sidewalk-traffic’ every chance I had. I let people through, ensuring a comfortable amount of space between each person, etc. On the crowded subway, there were so many beautiful people. It felt as if we were all brothers and sisters.

In addition to this incredible shift, it was the first time I ever paid for an upcoming Kanes’ course so far in advance. I registered and paid for the upcoming course, “The Art of Relating” (June 20, 21, and 22, 2008). It is quite evident that the course has already begun for me. Even my relationship with my awesome girlfriend, Kate, is remarkable. We’ve been having a magical, seamless time together, consistently for over a month, which, for us, considering the way we were before, is a miracle. Last week, she and I had a moment of “returning” to our old way of communicating and caught that we were doing that, stopped, then took responsibility for the way we were and talked it over. Soon we were back to having fun again!

I can genuinely say, I feel everyone’s brilliance, especially Ariel and Shya. I love you and thank you for giving so much to my life!!

-Gio F.

Anyway, it has been so much fun to see how I feel with different men. I’m paying attention to clues on who I want to hang out with more. I’m no longer overlooking things that I did not like because I was trying to make the guy fit into a forced role of ‘boyfriend’ right away.

I also magically realized that I had a judgment against men as being mean or inept.. I always secretly thought I was better than my two older brothers and father. I believed that girls did it better and were superior.. and when I realized that the line of thinking that had been running my life was created when I was a 4 year-old and I didn’t judge myself for those thoughts…they just melted away. The three magical principles of transformation made it so easy to look at my thoughts non-judgmentally, and realize I could have not been different.

I know that I have been kinder to all men in general. It is so sweet, I have so many new guy friends and potential dates, it is unbelievable!! I cannot explain it, and I am so grateful to know that I can go about my dating also with excellence as I do every aspect of my life. I am not a failure or incomplete for not having a relationship… This is indeed a magical dating season!! If you want to hear the podcast I recorded with the Kanes, click here and listen to “A Magical Season of Dating” and join me (and many others) for The Art of Relating weekend in June, it’s going to be phenomenal!!

*To listen to other great Instantaneous Transformation podcasts, go to http://transformationmadeeasy.com/podcasts/